Separating Our Feelings From Our Food

How You Feel Affects Your Eating Habits

I read the excerpt below on Mary Carrillo’s website about our relationship with food and how it affects your eating habits. After reading, I wanted to share her article with you. Mary explains how our feelings can impact how much we eat, as well as what we eat. Read more about how your relationship with food is important to your health and you how you can benefit even more by understanding the connection.

I can’t help but notice certain mentalities around me. I have worked directly with all sorts of different people … people who have lost over 100 lbs and now have a fear of food… people who need to lose 100 lbs and can’t stop eating … people who need to gain 20 lbs but never seem to be hungry … people who are 50 lbs overweight, yet they do not eat…

A reblog from 323 Fitness: Separating our Feelings From our Food

Mary’s Bio: I’m passionate about helping people feel better. I want people to know that it is possible to attain the health that gives them the strength to move without pain. And most people have no idea how good their bodies are designed to feel.

Mary has a lot of experience in the field of nutrition. Please note that with some knowledge and determination, your eating habits can change for the best. You might also enjoy her other articles at

Separating our Feelings From our Food

I can’t help but notice certain mentalities around me. Working directly with all sorts of people for over a year now has taught me a great deal about our perception of “health” and people’s perception of healthy eating.

I have worked with people who have lost over 100 lbs and now have a fear of food and with people who need to lose 100 lbs and can’t stop eating. In addition, I have worked with people who need to gain 20 lbs but never seem to be hungry enough to eat and similarly, I have worked with people who are 50 lbs overweight, yet they do not eat. I have worked with people who have mental illness and continually lie about what they eat as well as people who refuse to acknowledge that they are overweight and people who refuse to acknowledge that they are underweight. I have worked with people who are of a normal weight and body fat percentage yet they see themselves as grotesquely large and fat. It doesn’t seem fair, does it?

Eating Disorders Are More Common Than You Think

Every single person that I mentioned above has one very dangerous thing in common. They are all battling eating disorders. Eating disorders are not only in the form of Anorexia or Bulimia. And, because of what I see day-to-day, I would say that they are 2 of the most uncommon eating disorders. Sugar addiction, overeating, fear of food, and binge eating are the disorders I see most often. As much as I hate to admit it, we don’t think of them as eating disorders, but we should.

When someone is anorexic everybody knows it’s an issue. But when someone is legitimately and completely addicted to sugar, nobody bats an eye. And that is a problem.

When a person eats 1 small meal a day for years, no one bats an eye, or consumes over 6x’s the recommended amount of sugar in their diet, no one bats an eye.

When a person sneaks food and eats in secret because they don’t want anybody to see, no  one bats an eye, or they don’t “feel” hungry for 8 hours straight, no one bats an eye.

These are dangerous habits and they aren’t just physical. They are mental. Food is such a mental thing in America. It seems we cannot separate our feelings from our food.  The mentality that I see all around me says; ” I feel sad, I eat, happy, I eat, bored, I eat. OR; I feel angry, I can’t eat, I’m tired, I won’t eat, I feel depressed and don’t feel like eating.

Finally, You Can Change Your Eating Habits

For the sake of our health, we must learn to separate our feelings from our food. Food is energy and function. Food is meant to be ENJOYED in a reasonable way. Our taste buds should come second to the needs of our bodies. In addition, until we admit that there is a problem with these mentalities and behaviors, nothing will change.

Above all, if you want to change, it can only start with you. So, form those good eating habits now that will last you a lifetime…

Additional reading on the 4 types of eating disorders that Mary mentioned for you to buy now!

Creating Better Eating Habits - Suicide by Sugar Suicide by Sugar
Creating Better Eating Habits - The Hungry Brain The Hungry Brain: Outsmarting the Instincts That Make Us Overeat
Creating Better Eating Habits - Fear of Food Fear of Food: A History of Why We Worry about What We Eat

Creating Better Eating Habits - Overcoming Binge Eating The Proven Program to Learn Why You Binge and How You Can Stop

Because I am a stress eater, this article is especially relevant to me. After constantly gaining weight while snacking at work, I finally realized that I use food to comfort myself when I am very busy and work late. As a result of the stress, I was constantly eating ‘little’ bites, added with lots of sitting, I was gaining more and more and as a result became increasingly overweight. Being aware of this has helped me tremendously because I now know why I overeat and I can control it better. This article has been a good reminder for me as it’s a lifetime struggle, not a one-time fix.

In Conclusion

Remember that being aware of your triggers is just one tool, but it’s what you do with that information that will help you even more. I hope you can avoid some of the anguish of over or under eating by changing your eating habits. So, when you realize that you are eating more than you should, stop for a minute and think about the reason. Look for your eating pattern. You may be surprised to learn why you eat the way you do. And once you know why, you can control it.

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We certainly hope you enjoyed reading Mary’s article as much as we did, and that just maybe her insights are helpful to you too. Thank you for visiting with us today. Wishing you the best of health.


Author: Joan E Wilder

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